Sex Therapy

Couple kissing in front of sunset for sex therapy and intimacy

Sexuality is a core part of human connection, yet many of us carry complicated emotions or trauma around sexual experiences. As a trauma-informed LGBTQIA+ polyA and kink-affirming therapist, I offer sex therapy that supports individuals and their relationships in exploring sexuality with compassion and respect for the nervous system. My work integrates somatic awareness, IFS (Internal Family Systems), and relational therapy to help you reconnect with your body, clarify your desires, and communicate more openly with partners.

If you’re struggling with sexual concerns, you’re not alone. Common reasons clients seek sex therapy include desire discrepancies, performance anxiety, difficulty with arousal or orgasm, pain during sex, shame or inhibition, low libido, changes related to aging or hormonal shifts, impacts of trauma, and barriers to intimacy. Many clients also come to sex therapy without a “problem,” but with a desire to expand pleasure, strengthen emotional intimacy, or better understand their sexual identity, orientation, or relationship structure.

What We Address in Sex Therapy

In our work together, we may explore:

  • Sexual desire & arousal patterns

  • Neurodivergence & sex

  • Pain during sex (vaginismus, dyspareunia, etc.)

  • Navigating sexual shame or inhibition

  • Impact of trauma on sexuality

  • Healing after sexual or relational betrayal

  • Sexual identity & orientation exploration

  • Desire discrepancies between partners

  • Erectile or orgasmic challenges

  • Communication around needs, boundaries & fantasies

  • Relationship structures (monogamous, non-monogamous, polyamorous)

  • Body image, self-esteem & nervous system responses

  • Sexuality through life transitions (postpartum, menopause, chronic illness, medication changes)

While we may discuss physiological factors, sex therapy is not medical treatment. When appropriate, I collaborate with pelvic floor PTs, sexual medicine providers, or other specialists to ensure care is comprehensive and supportive.

Who Benefits from Sex Therapy

My sex therapy practice supports individuals and couples (including LGBTQIA+, kinky, polyamorous, neurodivergent, or questioning folks) who want a shame-free space to explore sexuality. Clients often benefit when they are looking to:

  • Reconnect with pleasure after trauma

  • Clarify sexual identity or orientation

  • Strengthen intimacy and communication with a partner

  • Address anxiety, shutdown, or dissociation during sex

  • Navigate desire differences without blame

  • Build body trust and safety

  • Repair sexual ruptures in long-term relationships

  • Move past cultural, religious, or family conditioning around sex

  • Feel more confident in expressing needs, boundaries, and desires

Sex therapy can be supportive whether you’re single, partnered, or in transition. It meets you where you are — there is no expectation, no judgment, and no need to have everything figured out.

My Approach

Because sexuality is not just psychological, but relational, emotional, cultural, and nervous-system-based, our work may include:

  • Somatic attunement

  • IFS parts work

  • Psychoeducation

  • Attachment and relational exploration

  • Nervous system regulation tools

  • Communication skills for intimacy & boundaries

  • Values-based and identity exploration

I don’t believe in “fixing” sexuality — I believe in understanding it. Together, we create more space for pleasure, safety, authenticity, connection, and agency.

“We know by now that there’s no such thing as normal — or rather, that we’re all normal. We’re all made of the same parts as everyone else, organized in a unique way.”

— Dr. Emily Nagoski, Sex Educator & Researcher